A few years ago when my sister and her husband hit some bumps in their marriage it was pointed out to them that they were speaking different love languages. This thought is from a best selling book and philosophy by Dr. Gary Chapman that helps couples, families and friends better communicate with each other.
It is my thought that Callie and Arizona speak completely different love languages. I really hope that in therapy this is brought up because they have been strongly hinting at it for a while.
Callie’s love language is Giving. Arizona’s love language is Words of Affirmation. I encourage you to read these definitions and see how this could be where they have failed each other but also how easy with a little guidance and knowledge it would be to fix. When a person is not receiving love in their own language their love tank is depleted, when a person does receive love in their own language their love tank is full.
Just some food for thought.
Yes yes yes - my friend and her husband read this book and I’ve been thinking the exact same thing.
So totally true! I think Callie’s is also physical touch, too though. Arizona is definitely Words of Affirmation. I think in Arizona’s case quality time may be her secondary love language
If Callie and Arizona are not talking for 30 days and Dr. Herman is giving Arizona a hard time I think it will bother her on some level - no matter how pissed she is - not to have Callie to talk to about it. That is why I assume she spends some time with April while Callie and Meredith are out.
It will be interesting, funny and awkward if April is at their house when Callie comes home. Imagine being in the middle of two people not speaking? That stuff is right up Sarah Drew’s comedy alley!
It has the potential to be truly fabulous.
"Don’t you ever say that I don’t love my child or that I regret my child.”
The fierceness of this mother’s love for her daughter is overwhelming because as much as Arizona speaks to Callie here, she is also speaking directly to any audience who dares question or qualify who Sofia is to her and…
Preach! Sing it! You are totally right and I completely agree!
From a storytelling/narrative perspective I do wonder if the point of this moment is to also address the moment in 9x3 where Arizona refers to Sofia as ‘Mark’s daughter.’ In the HuffPo piece from early S9 Sara Ramirez’s comments would imply that this remark from Arizona would hurt Callie. I can see where they wrote this piece in counselling to show us Callie remembers A saying that. So I’m not disagreeing with you - I’m just seeing another layer to the narrative re: addressing the implications of things they’ve said and done to one another
Remember when Miranda and Steve agreed in counseling to take two weeks apart and then meet on the Brooklyn Bridge if they wanted to move forward in their marriage and leave the past behind?
I want Bend and Break to end similar to this.
You read my mind. I posted that thought elsewhere and let it go because it seemed impossible. Now I have hope again. I would LOVE a moment like the bridge scene.
So the difficult decision to salvage their marriage is indeed the 30 day break with no sex or talking outside of therapy.
The band-aids need to come off but the question remains how do they put back the pieces when the long harbored resentments and bitter feelings are exposed and words can’t be taken back? I am confident they will find a way but this not the stuff for lightweights. Their common goal HAS to be saving their marriage.
I agree with nyladreams - and can I just say I already like Calzona’s counsellor WAY better than the one Cristina and Owen saw? I don’t think this one would have allowed Owen to get away with that stupid ‘You’ll want kids when you grow up’ condescending attitude
You want Calzona to rip off the Band-Aids?
You want some Calzona sexy times?
You want therapy?
Oh, and how about we talk about the cheating?
Love this! It’s awesome. Wish there was a miscarriage mention.
So, like many I’m nervous and excited for episode 11x05. Since Shonda has said that Callie and Arizona’s entire relationship is a series of band-aids and now Kelly has discussed systemic issues, I thought it would be fun to explore exactly how and where this began.
For me, it goes back to…
I love what you’re saying here re: the 7x13 quote. I hope nobody misinterprets it to mean you’re saying those things that matter are deal breakers; they aren’t. Or at least they don’t have to be… what makes them worse & puts them at risk of becoming dealbreakers is ignoring them. When A said that, I wanted her to mean that they could talk, argue, & work through the rest because their fundamental needs/values/dreams were/are aligned enough that they could get past ‘the rest of it.’ And I do think that’s true. But of course, Arizona and Callie, being insecure, have just decided that it’s easier and safer to hide from the rest of it & live in the bubble.
It’s like getting a flat on your car (or in my case, at one time, wheelchair). A flat, if you tend to it properly and in a timely fashion, isn’t too big a deal. But keep DRIVING on the tire? You are creating a much bigger job for yourself.
I have the results for last weeks game all ready to go but for some insane reason tumblr is not letting me reblog anything or post anything from my computer.
So I thought atleast I’ll get the game up for 11x04!
Ooo do you smell something funky?
1. Which two board…
1) A 2) Amelia 3) Owen 4) No 5)Bailey & Richard 6) 4 times